They call it the big day. But when you think about it, “big” simply isn’t a “big” enough word. The prospect of a modern wedding is more than just “big”… It’s titanic! It’s a Herculean undertaking that’s similar in scope and organisation to a military operation. Let’s be honest, planning a wedding in the 21st century is an extremely stressful endeavour. It requires a lot of research, inspiration, phone calls, discussions, haggling, compromises, revisions, last minute changes and (of course) expenditure. This can lead to a lot of sleepless nights, stress, worry, upset, heated arguments and a range of other factors that can conspire to transform you into a bridezilla. But if you take a moment to look at the anatomy of a perfect wedding, you’ll see that everything else is just window
Food and drink
Of course, it’s important to feed your guests, but the food you choose for your wedding fare has a special significance. It should represent your shared tastes and the very idiosyncratic palate that you have created together for a couple. It should speak to the countless meals you’ve enjoyed together over the years and perhaps even the cuisines of destinations you’ve visited together.
As the bard once write, “If music be the food of love, play on”. Your music should be more than something to get your tipsy dad up and dancing with his tie around his head (although it should certainly do that, too). It should be an audial roadmap of your relationship. Don’t just book any old DJ, use an experienced disc spinner like Benny Smyth DJ. A good DJ will talk to you about your relationship and try and cobble together a soundtrack to your love, interspersed with floor fillers to get each and every generation up and dancing.
Friends and family
Many newly married couples are pleasantly surprised to find that married life is much the same as life before the big day and yet somehow better. But that shouldn’t detract from the momentousness of the occasion nor the importance of sharing it with the people who matter the most to you in the whole world. No wedding is complete without the closest friends and family who will get to witness your declaration of love for one another in the eyes of the law.
Two people who love each other
This can be extremely difficult to digest in a climate where we’re so encouraged to put the minutiae before the momentous. We’re encouraged to agonize over colours and textures of bridesmaids’ dresses, the relative virtues of different cake flavours, the perfect shoes and which entrees to include for gluten free guests… But don’t let your absorption in the little things detract your attention from the fact that you love each other so much that you’re ready to spend the rest of your lives together. When things get stressful, when arguments start and when tempers flare, remember that most important fact and everything else will fall into place.
When you look at the anatomy of a perfect wedding, it really doesn’t matter how much you spend.